[09] Honest & Authentic Intimacy

Many women reach out wishing to experience sensual play and intimacy, or to seek advice on personal sexual dilemmas.
Among those who message me, I find that a great many are remarkably polite, thoughtful in their words and actions, and often quite shy and reserved.

As I mentioned in Column 06, their struggles often revolve around mismatched sex drives with partners, difficulties communicating assertively with the opposite sex, feeling too shy to initiate intimacy, or being unable to convey what they desire and what brings them genuine pleasure.

Precisely because they care so deeply about their partner's feelings, they cannot have sex that is honest to themselves.
Because they worry about how others perceive them, they cannot have sex that is honest to themselves.
Because they cannot bring themselves to speak the words in their hearts, they cannot have sex that is honest to themselves.

It is precisely for these women that I wish they could experience intimacy that is completely honest to who they are. An intimate encounter that serves as a rewarding comfort for those who work hard every day, stay considerate of others, and hold back their own feelings.

I am genuinely delighted when someone tells me honestly what they desire in intimacy.
Since many worry, 'Is it wrong to ask for this?', I make a conscious effort to create comfortable opportunities for them to speak up.
Regardless of gender, actively seeking to understand what your partner desires in intimacy is what leads to truly honest and fulfilling connections.

If you have no one in your life you can speak to honestly... please feel free to reach out.
Let me listen to the honest intimacy you desire.